There’s an old adage that indicates only the bride is allowed to be late for her own wedding. The fact that many brides do, indeed, arrive late is not usually their disregard for time. It’s just that there are so many people to accommodate and so many last-minute details that put the wedding party behind schedule.
Traffic may be a factor. The car that’s to take the bride and her attendants to the church may arrive late. The hair styles may take longer than anticipated. Makeup can require more time. Someone always has to go to the bathroom at the last minute requiring extra time with those long, intricate dresses. There will always be glitches which you have no control over. These mini crises are unavoidable. However, there are safeguards for other situations.
First, forget the champagne. There will be lots of time for celebrating after the wedding. Alcohol makes wedding party participants forget about the time. Spills take up precious time and may ruin a dress. Make the pre-wedding preparations alcohol-free. Serve sparkling non-alcohol drinks if you must.
MAKE ME PRETTY
Plot your timeline for hair, makeup, dressing, photos and the ride to the church with lots of time to spare. You’ll be amazed at how the extra time will disappear. Be sure to allow for emergency hem or heel repairs.
Have your attendants bring their undergarments, shoes, dresses, makeup to the place where you’ll be dressing a few days before. This allows for last-minute and forgotten items to be added before your big day.
TIME IT RIGHT
Make sure your hair stylist and makeup artist have lots of time. If you’re going to their shop, allow ample travel time to and from the facility. Be sure to allow forty-five minutes to an hour for each attendant, mothers, and others. Tell the stylists your bridal numbers and let them do the calculations.
IT’S IN THE DETAILS
Plan to have the hair style you’ll be wearing “field tested” a few weeks before so the stylist will know how much time she or he will need. This includes hair decorations and veils. You need to make sure that elaborate hairdo is right for your special day.
FIRST OR LAST
Decide whether the bride and the mother of the bride need to get ready first or last. This is a personal preference. Many brides and brides’ moms like to go last so they can tend to last-minute details. Others want to be ready so they can trouble shoot at the end. Note: It’s dangerous to leave the bride to the last. Many horror stories involve hair or makeup crises and no time to fix them!
Have the florist make deliveries to the home—or the church—with lots of time to spare. Some bridal parties want their flowers at the home for photos and others want them all delivered to the church to avoid heat and damage in transit. Build in lots of time for deliveries and the limousine to arrive in order to avoid panic.
Avoid wasting time. Have bridal party slotted in to hair and makeup as soon as they arrive at the salon. If you plan to have bridal party pictures taken after the girls are ready or as they are getting ready be sure to build in time for this. Your photographer can judge how much time she/he needs.
Last but not least, enjoy your wedding! Don’t let the fear of staying on a strict schedule impact how your day goes. This is a big moment, and your guests are there for you! They will forgive you if you’re running a little behind. Make sure to celebrate!